Merited love is I love you because...
Merciful love is I love you in spite of...
A Princess of Grace works hard at both merited love and merciful love.
Merited love is why you first got married. It's important in a marriage. Work to give your spouse more reasons to say “I love you because…”
E.g. of merited love:
I love you because of the way you look into my eyes.
I love you because you are so sweet.
I love you because of your beautiful hair.
I love you because of your beautiful smile.
I love you because you are so intelligent.
I love you because you are so sporty.
I love you because you are so kind to my parents.
I love you because you work so hard to support the family.
I love you because of your high integrity and ethics in life.
But human beings are imperfect. For a marriage to thrive and last, merciful love needs to enter and stay.
E.g. of merciful love:
I love you in spite of your white hair.
I love you in spite of your snoring.
I love you in spite of your coming home late for dinner.
I love you in spite of your grumpiness every now and then due to the stress of life.
I love you in spite of you hurting my feelings and stepping on my toes every now and then.
I love you in spite of you leaving clothes on the floor after countless reminders.
I love you in spite of the way you fold the clothes after countless tutorial sessions on how to fold clothes.
I love you in spite of you forgetting to refill the ice-cubes in the freezer yet again.
Merciful love stems from grace. It is unconditional love in daily work clothes.
Merciful love is hard. It is supernatural, but it is true love.
When you give merciful love, God sees it, and you are blessed in many different ways you could not even think of.
“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense” (Proverbs 19:11)
“人有见识就不轻易发怒，
宽恕人的过失便是自己的荣耀。” - 箴言 19:11
Dear God, in our marriage, help us to grow in both merited love and merciful love for each other.
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