Friday, 2 December 2022

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Biblical Sex Education for Teens



The internet gives our children a distorted view of sexuality through pornography, lewd and sexual content that is harmful to both the body and the mind.

It takes what is meant to be beautiful, pure, exclusive and private; and puts it on public display, degrading it, making it dirty, cheap and an agent of destruction.

We don’t want our children to have such a corrupted view of sexuality. It has life-long implications. We all want the very best for our children. We want them to have the right perspective about love, marriage and sexuality. 

Marriage concerns the whole life of our children. It can either be a lasting source of deep joy and fulfillment, or it can also be a source of brokenness, isolation and deep pain. Divorces are rampant. Dead and lifeless marriages are also common place.

In order for our children to have a chance at a successful, loving and lasting marriage, all aspects need to be addressed and taught. This is not the only aspect, but this is one important aspect that we as parents have to address and teach our children to have the right mindset. 

If we don’t, who would?

No one has the best interests of our children at heart except their parents.

We live in a different age and time - the age of internet. Good foundation has to be laid young and early in our children's lives, before the negative influences from outside set in.

I feel like I have taken a PhD in parenting teenagers, but I am just scratching on the surface.

This guide is the result of my pain-staking effort for the last two years (since I have had the opportunity to stay at home) with my desire to do my very best as a mother in guiding J and C to navigate through their childhood years, their teenage years and into adulthood.

I am once again risking awkwardness, but I am sharing it with you with the sincere hope that it could benefit you with your children too.

May God bless your children and give them the most lasting and loving marital relationship they can have. God wants to. He is the one who created marriage.

This guide is most suited for teenagers age 12 and above. Here is the link to the guide.
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Talking to Your Child About Puberty

 

Raising teenager have been one of the most challenging periods in my life as a mom. Never before have I cried so much and be on my knees praying for our children so much.

I don’t like to step out of my comfort zone, but for the future of our children, I will do so.

Our children’s life today is exposed to all kinds of information on the internet, pornography included. You can’t shelter them from all the bad stuff. The best internet filter isn’t fool proof, but you can teach them the right values that will hopefully guide their actions. 

Today I am going to risk awkwardness and share with you two books I have found - one on puberty and the other on wholesome sexuality.

We are all created male or female. Quoting from the books I have read, "Sexuality lies at the core of our human existence. 

"When your child has grown up, his or her relationship can either bring a deep sense of brokenness and shame or an incredible blessing. Therefore, we have a responsibility to equip our children with a healthy, wholeness view of sexuality early.

Children are naturally curious. Don’t leave them wondering about sex. Talking about healthy sexuality may be the single most powerful way you have of stepping into the lives of your children. It also can be the most difficult. 

When you dare to broach the subject with your child, you are communicating, “You are important enough to me that I will risk talking to you about this uncomfortable topic.”

The fear of too much too soon often means we speak too little too late.

Parents may be afraid that talking about it will rob their children of their innocence, but studies show that when children receive values-centred sex education at home, they are less likely to be promiscuous and more likely to have a healthy view of their personhood and sexuality. Innocence is a function of attitude, not information. Good information about sex, on the other hand, is one of the key tools we should use to help a child mature."

From the bottom of my heart, may God bless your children and your teenager as you navigate through this season of life.

P.S. No, J and C have not been exposed, but I want to be a step ahead of the world and teach them well and with the right values in this area.

The material in the first book is geared towards age 8 - 12 and the second book is geared towards age 6 - 11. So I am already late with J. But I won’t make the same mistake again with C.

These two books can be found in Amazon.

Amazon US:

Amazon UK:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1500659444/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s01ie=UTF8&psc=1

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1518631681/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Thursday, 24 November 2022

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How to Keep Teens Away from Drugs


More than a month ago, Daddy FECS and I attended a Drug Talk at J's school. The speaker is a policeman whose child is also attending the same school as J. This father and policeman shared his experience in his job dealing with drugs with the youth in Denmark. He said that it's important that kids understand the danger of drugs and know how to deal with it when they are in the situation. 

Our personal parenting coach who is a retired principal of a school in Gentofte told us that the partying, alcohol and drug culture is very much a part of Danish youth culture. It’s often during these parties that the kids get introduced to drugs. It is something we can't avoid. It is there in every single junior college (gymnasium) and Efterskole. We just have to face the fact that our kids will get exposed to this. He advised us to have a good relationship with our kids, so that it will be safe for them to come to us if they are in trouble. This sounded like post-damage control to me, rather than prevention! He said yes there’s no way we can prevent it. Coming from Singapore, this is a culture shock.

What shall I do? This has been on my mind.

If I raise this subject with J, would it arouse his curiosity to try drugs?

If I don't raise it with him, what if he be tempted to try drugs thinking that it is not that harmful? By then it will be too late.

I have been wondering how to get this conversation off the ground in a way not to arouse his curiosity to try out drugs. I still haven't found a way... But God is a humorous God, and He really does hear our prayers.

Denmark is known to have the most comfortable jail in the world, while Singapore has one of the worst. Curious about the condition of the jail in Singapore, two days ago, J asked out of the blue, "Mommy, shall we watch this YouTube video together about Singapore's jail?"

All those men who ended up in jail committed crimes under the influence of drugs. This gave me a teachable moment to show J how drug can destroy a person's life.

So ironically it was through J's own initiative that the conversation on drugs took off in a natural way, although he had selected the videos for a different purpose, namely to show how bad the Singapore jail is.

But I just want to thank God. He has heard my cry for help. He created this opportunity for me to connect with J and gave me the words to do so in a gentle and indirect way - believe me, this is not something I am good at.

God in a way is also showing me that drugs is also a hard-to-deal-with issue in Singapore. I can't just run back to Singapore thinking that our children would be safe there, but God will be with me in our parenting, with our children. I can trust Him with our children growing up in Denmark.

If you are also finding it challenging how to talk to your teenager about drugs, maybe these YouTube videos could help you too. It is a series of 4 videos, but watching one is sufficient, although J couldn't put them down! The videos are very touching. They brought tears to my eyes. J was solemn throughout. In a way, I think it made him think. 

Well, after watching the videos, he forgot to criticize the Singapore's jail system. The Singapore jail system isn't perfect, but it isn't so bad after all. It is clean, the food is decent. The inmates receive psychological assistance.

Below is the link to the series of YouTube videos:




With all my heart, may God bless you in your parenting of your teenager at home. 

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose." - Romans 8:28

Monday, 14 November 2022

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Encouragement for Your Marriage: Love = Giving

 


What is love?

Love = Giving

It’s the ability and willingness to sacrifice your own wants, interests and desires for the sake of your spouse/children,
EVEN WHEN YOUR SPOUSE/CHILDREN DON'T DESERVE IT.

Blessed are those who have found such a person as their spouse or parent.

But even more blessed still are those who are such a person to their spouse/children.

Few parents can do it for their own children. Even fewer still can do it for their own spouse.

As I searched my heart, I actually haven’t done so for my own children, even though I say I love them. I wanted Baby FECS to go to ballet. It’s my own want and desire, not hers.

Lots to learn in this area 😭😭But God’s forgiving love surrounds our hearts and make it possible for me to improve as a parent and as a spouse.

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. They are new every morning. Because of that we all have hope that we can become better parents, better spouse.

Saturday, 22 October 2022

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Flower Fields in Denmark (Blomstermarken)


Just found out the places we can go for flower-plucking in Denmark. It's too late in the season now, but making this post so we are ready for next year.

1. Fruervangs Blomstermark in Zealand


Always open, no entrance fee
1 hour car ride from Copenhagen
Køgevej/Værløsevej, Faxe, Denmark


2. Camp Adventure Flower Field in Zealand



Entrance fee: 75 DKK
Opens from July to September 10am - 6pm
Self-pluck 125 DKK per bouquet



3. Plukselv Blomster Fyn



They have tulips too
Tel: +45 20 99 15 75
kontakt@havearkitektfyn.dk

4. Blomstermark in Jutland


Always open, no entrance fee
3 - 5 DKK per stalk

Allerupvej 52
9930 Dronninglund
Tlf: 41 43 30 97


5. Blomstermark in Jutland


Drammelstrupvej 126, 8300 Odder
+45 22 49 24 60
bw.vestergaard@gmail.com


If you have a huge garden, you can also make your own flower field, here is how to do it:

Saturday, 6 August 2022

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The Road Ahead (Lyrics & Music Score)

The Road Ahead 

Verse 1:
One man on an island
One drop in the sea
All it takes to set a wave in motion

Is a single word, an action
A hope that we can be
The change that we've been
Longing to see

Pre-Chorus:
For our home, our land, our family
It's all within our reach

Chorus:
See this island, every grain of sand
Hear this anthem, it's the voices of our friends
Come whatever on the road ahead
We did it before, and we'll do it again

Verse 2:
When the moments turn to hours
And the day's last light is gone
Look around us always and remember

There were times we were uncertain
But we just kept walking on
It's always darkest just before the dawn

Chorus

Bridge:
Our home, the home we share
Where the garden always grows toward the light
Though the road ahead is daunting
I know we're gonna be alright

Chorus x2











Additional Information:

Singapore National Day is coming up on 9 of August, and I am trying to teach Baby FECS and Little FECS this national song. This song was last year's National Day's theme song and is our niece, YQ's favorite song. She asked for this song during their visit in June during bedtime "hygge". It is also our favorite song. So we will try to learn to sing it by heart and remind us of our time together in June. Oh how I miss all of you :-)

References:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZLitNdYUx0

Tuesday, 2 August 2022

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The Best Outdoor Obstacle Course in Denmark (Junglesti)

 

Baby FECS really loves the outdoor obstacle course. By far the the best one we have come across in Denmark is the one at Sommerland Sjælland, a popular amusement park among Danes. You have to pull a raft across river, walk across a hanging bridge, go through a dark maze-like hut, swing across water, etc.

Little FECS had a great time there during his childhood too. Unfortunately, this outdoor obstacle course is quite far away, an hour's drive from Copenhagen, and it is not free, as it is not located in a nature park. Thus, you need to buy entrance ticket to the amusement park. So going there just for the outdoor obstacle course is not worth it, but fortunately the amusement park has a lot of other fun stuff to offer. So next time we have a visit from our little nieces and nephews from Singapore, we really hope to bring them there - that's the reason for this post :-) I just want to do my homework beforehand, while the memory is still fresh in my mind :-) 

We have also wrote a separate post for our visit to Sommerland Sjælland, which you can read here:


Prices

Normal tickets cost 289 DKK. Buying your tickets on-line gave you a discount of 10 DKK for the normal tickets. If you are a member of FDM, you get further discount and we paid 215 DKK per ticket.

If you buy a fixed day ticket on-line, you will pay 169 DKK per ticket, but being Denmark, with unpredictable weather conditions, we decided against this offer.

For the month of July, there are also circus. Going to circus is an expensive affair in Denmark, with ticket costing 500 DKK, thus it is value for money to go there during July as the admission ticket includes also the circus show.

For the most updated information on opening hours and admission prices, click here:


Address

Gl. Nykøbingvej 169
4572 Nr. Asmindrup

+45 59312100

By Car

From Copenhagen, it takes a little more than an hour to drive to the park and 2.5 hours by train. We drove to the park. The first thing upon arrival by car, you will drive-through to buy or show your pre-purchased tickets.  There are ample parking available in the park.

Thereafter, as you follow the road, you will arrive at the open field carpark. Here are more information and a picture of the carpark:


You can find your way there here:


By Train

If you choose to go by train, there is a package including admission tickets. Check their website for more infromation: http://sommerlandsj.dk/koeb-billet/pakketilbud/bus-regionstog.html

If you are arriving by train, here is how the train station at Sommerland looks like:


Here are some pictures of the outdoor obstacle course:













We particularly love the suspended bridge...







































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