Saturday, 26 June 2010


Accept the chicken and the duck

A marriage brings out the chicken and duck in both of us.

We come from two different backgrounds, from two different countries, with two different cultures and two different mother-tongues. Sometimes, we become like chickens and ducks. When communication hits a snag… when we just simply do not understand each other’s viewpoint… we go quack quack quack and chick chick chick with frustrations. The chicken could not find out how to go the duck’s way, and the duck could not find out how to go the chicken’s way... and I ask… why can’t that chicken just take to water like duck!!!

So who is the chicken and who is the duck in our case?

My Significant Other always jokes that I have flat duck feet… not very elegant, but I can swim very well :-)… so that makes me the duck. My Significant Other can’t really swim very well… so that makes him the chicken. J is like me, has duck feet, but he still can’t swim… so that make him a half-chicken-half-duck.

So what happens when the chicken and the duck fight? Guess which of us wins?

We both lose.

Here is a list of suggestions when a duck-and-chicken situation occurs:

1. Pray

I pour out to God in tears and ask God to turn me into a chicken so that I can understand why my Significant Other is like that. Sometimes, God turns my Significant Other into a duck. Sometimes, God puts situations into our lives, and Bingo, suddenly I could use that illustration, so that my Significant Other could finally “see the light”.

2. Run to God for counsel and comfort

Very often God deals with me, ouch! He points me to Philippians 2:4

“Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”- Philippians 2:4

3. Trust and wait patiently for Him

4. Give that chicken or duck a hug and forgive.

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