Ask yourself, "How can I love my spouse today, like he/she has never been loved before and never will be loved?"
If our greatest need isn't to be loved, but to learn how to love, what should my goals be?
Being a goal-oriented person, I am prone to set daily goals.
The world teaches us that our well-being is the number one goal and that should trump everything else.
The most natural thing that comes to us each morning is to wake up asking ourselves, "Am I happier today than I was yesterday? What is going to make me happy today?"
But instead, I should ask myself, "How can I love my spouse today, like he has never been loved before and never will be loved?"
For me, this means that I shouldn't resent it if Daddy FECS comes home late for dinner due to work commitment, even though I absolutely dislike it as it means disruption for the kids' routine.
I know he loves to have dinner with the kids and the kids love to have dinner with him. Thus, it is something I am still working towards improving it.
Do I succeed every time?
No.
There is always a tomorrow to try again and... to work on my attitude :-) How to still remain cheerful with the Lord's strength :-)
And no, I have not mastered it yet. And so many times I have failed time and again. Thus, it is not surprising how much opportunities God puts in our days to give me a chance to practice in this area ;-) The opportunities are new every morning. Practice makes perfect, right :-)
It's not easy, but it means to love our spouse in action and in a practical way that makes him/her feel loved.
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