See Your Differences as a Gift
Different definition of a clean house.
Different ideas on taking holidays.
Different end-of-day routine.
Different interpretation of movies.
Different needs for sleep.
Different approach to making lists - or not making lists.
A list of annoyances that become the dreaded "irreconcilable differences" and indeed they are. They are raw material for endless going-in-circles arguments and a drift toward isolation.
Every single marriage has this challenge, EVERY SINGLE MARRIAGE, unless you are married to yourself.
How to deal with differences and fight isolation?
Solution:
Believe that your spouse's differences are for your good - they are actually a God-given chance for us to grow and mature.
Make a decision to see your differences through a lens of gratitude;
- as a gift from God to grow you up;
- as the raw material from God to shape you into something beautiful you wouldn't become on your own;
- as grounds for God to build something new on.
The everyday clash of those differences must be met with a steely decision to once again, on a daily basis, to accept and love the other person as God's gift to you.
But how are we able to succeed in making such a decision daily? We can only do so by showing grace, Gushing Grace And we need to go to God for this source of grace, enabling us to do so. We can't show grace by our own effort.
Source: familylife.com Ed Uszynski
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